My Personalized Ring for Mother’s Day

Thank you to the talented jewelry maker, Heidi J. Hale, for partnering with me and helping me tell my story. I am sharing with you my own thoughts, words and opinions about an amazing company that unknowingly helped me during a time of grief and great sadness.

personalized ring HJH

Last year, I saw a Facebook post showcasing a beautiful  silver, stacked, personalized ring. What really caught my attention was that each band of the ring could be personalized with a name, number or symbol and naturally the names of my four children {Cody, Sarah, Madison and Bailey} were my chosen design. This personalized ring would be a treasured birthday present to myself as I celebrated 45 years of an amazing life.

personalized ring stack

I typed up my order and didn’t even care about the delivery time as this personalized ring was going to arrive long after my birthday but just in time for Mother’s Day. It was a unique, fun and whimsical piece of jewelry that would definitely be a conversation piece and so very worth the wait.

personalized ring close up stack

Little did I know, that Facebook post and my order was also part of the movement that catapulted Heidi J. Hale into making her dreams come true as a jewelry maker and successful business owner. Little did I know, that personalized ring would arrive at a time when I was living my worst nightmare.

One month after I ordered my personalized ring, I received a phone call from a family friend and instantly knew from the tone of her voice that something was terribly wrong. As I was trying to process the conversation, my heart stopped, my body went numb, my tears flowed uncontrollably and I sobbed as I learned that my 23 year old son unexpectedly passed away in his sleep due to a brain hemorrhage. I literally felt the pain of my heart breaking in two as my mind went dark and my life was forever changed.

personalized ring HJH

My days were filled with such a heavy sadness as I not only mourned the loss of my first born child but the immense pain I witnessed as my husband and daughters struggled with their own grief was quite overwhelming. As a wife and mother, I wanted nothing more than to absorb the pain bestowed upon my family.

Personalized ring and necklace

Through therapy we learned that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no starting or stopping point for grief and everyone grieves in their own way. Grief will never go away but we will learn to live with it on a daily basis as it is always present and shows up without warning like an uninvited house guest. As part of the healing process, we have all taken on different ways to honor and cherish Cody’s spirit and keep him close at heart.

personalized ring close up

My personalized ring from Heidi J. Hale arrived just before Mother’s Day last year. I had forgotten all about the ring I had ordered and it came at a time when I needed some happiness and joy in my life. Each time I look at my ring it makes me smile for being a Mother is one of my greatest blessings in life and I cherish the happy memories that bring some peace to my broken heart.

personalized ring cody

My stacked rings have become my wedding band and I am constantly asked about them.  I wrote to Heidi J. Hale to tell her how much I loved my rings and the special meaning they have in my life. Soon after, I received the nicest, kindest, most sincere email with an offer to send me a new set of rings with “angel wings” next to Cody’s name. I was overwhelmed with this kind gesture as I didn’t even know they offered any type of Memorial Rings but then again, I was never in the market to shop for a such a ring.

personalized ring HJH

Through further conversation about the path that brought me to this devastating moment in my life I was introduced to The Journey Necklace. This necklace perfectly depicted the last 26 years of my life as a military spouse traveling across the country.  The Journey Necklace can be personalized with any path and I chose the 4 different states my children were born in as we moved coast to coast.

personalized ring journey necklace

Although my son is no longer physically with us here on Earth, his spirit lives on through our happy memories. I am constantly reminded that nothing matters except making happy memories because in the end….memories are all we have left of each other. The custom made, personalized jewelry from the Heidi J. Hale collection reminds me to embrace my journey and keep making happy memories.

Cody, I miss you and love you with all the pieces of my broken heart. XOXOXO

personalized ring cody

22 comments

  1. Sarah says:

    Denise, my heart still breaks for you as I read the story of Cody’s passing. Your ring and necklace are such beautiful reminders of your story…and that beauty can indeed rise from the ashes of heartbreak. You are an inspiration my sweet friend.

  2. Lisa says:

    I’m sure this was not an easy post for you to write but it’s just beautifully written and I pray it was a healing process for you.

  3. Anika says:

    Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story with us. That is such a beautiful reminder of your precious boy. I pray for healing for you and your family this Mother’s Day.

  4. Amber says:

    Great story. I’m at work balling my eyes out. 🙂

    Miss you guys, and I love the new ring addition. It’s beautiful.

  5. Bliss says:

    From one mother to another, this was hard to read. A heartbreak I wish no mom ever had to experience. The jewelry is very nice, and I too hope I never need to know more about memory jewelry than I just learned reading your story.

  6. Dru says:

    I just read your story and wish I could hug you. I, too, am an angel mommy, and so know of the pain you feel. I am so sorry for your loss. I am a wife of a retired soldier and love the idea behind your necklace. I’m definitely going to get one for my four children, one boy and three girls :), all born in different places.

    • Denise Bryant says:

      Thank you so much for you kind words. Amazing how parallel our lives our…military spouses with one boy and three girls all born in different states and angel moms. Life is crazy and I am blessed to meet wonderful people every day. Thanks Dru!

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